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The benefits of talking are not apparent to many people. Since I am a psychologist, it is obvious to me how talking helps people. However, the benefits of talking are not apparent to many people.

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Research actually suggests that people who ask more questions are better liked by their conversation partners than people who ask fewer questions. Frequently, what has happened to us cannot be changed, such as when someone we love dies, a tragic accident occurs or we have learned we have a terrible illness. Talking le to a catharsis, which means a feeling of relief.

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Focusing yo attention on the other person in those moments can help us get past those awkward spots, she says. But as we talk, we hear ourselves express feelings and information that have not been expressed before. Our fear assumptions fail to take into the social norms of politeness, Schroeder says. Audio CD.

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Then the therapist and client together work out a series of positive statements to counteract the negative statements. My eyes were focused on her and her feelings became my feelings. Talking le to new solutions Talking helps in other ways, too. In my practice, I ask people a lot of questions to keep them talking about what troubles them so they might discover their own solution. There is a word that captures how talking helps—catharsis.

Listening gives people an opportunity to tell their story, and, in the telling, they find relief and a quieting of their emotions. Be curious Ask questions.

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Research shows the opposite, however, that people nearly always are willing to engage in a conversation when prompted by someone else. When these experiences descend upon us, we feel emotionally frozen. She related that after a prolonged illness with cancer, her year-old son died.

However, the benefits of talking are not apparent to many people. She left my talm and I have never seen her again, but her story stays with me.

At these times, we walk around feeling emotionally charged up and filled with tension. Talking is cathartic There are many experiences in life that at times leave us emotionally overwhelmed. A question can either kick off a conversation or keep it going, Sandstrom says.

Old thoughts that are counterproductive are erased and new thoughts that are positive and constructive are entered into the mind. It is somekne lot like re-programming a computer.

Nothing has changed that spmeone the suffering in our lives, but talking has drained off some of the pain and this brings relief. For the next two months, this mother arrived for her appointment each week. Give someone a compliment It shifts the focus to the other person and should make them feel good, Sandstrom explains.

Many times when we talk with a friend, a family member or a therapist, we are stuck. Very often, they are surprised how they suddenly think of how to solve the problem. The client is then encouraged to talk to herself during the day by repeating these statements.

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When our last session ended, she stood up, grabbed my hand and thanked me for helping her. She researches how people navigate their social worldsincluding how language and mental capacity influences interactions.

I could see the despair and grief she was feeling. Talking helped her. Somfone solution pops into our mind. At times I smiled with her and at times my eyes, like her eyes, were filled with tears. I have many stories of how people benefit from talking, but the story that follows is one I will never forget.

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You get better at asking better questions, and answering with more interesting responses. It is this experience of hearing ourselves that allows us at times to suddenly think of what to do. By Kenneth N. We find ourselves stuck in a state of despair and pain.

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I did nothing but listen. She was so appreciative.

The charged feelings within us become less charged. She started her story with her pregnancy and took me a step at a time through the life of her son.

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Years ago, a woman in her late 40s arrived in my office. The benefits of talking are not apparent to many people.

Since I am a psychologist, it is obvious to me how talking helps people. I listened. The client is encouraged to take an inventory of the negative thoughts that pop into her mind throughout a normal day. At these times, talking can help. There is a branch of psychology that believes behavior can be changed by changing the way we think.